It doesn’t change anything
Have you ever gone to a movie that was so bad that you either got up and walked out… or wished that you had?
Most of us have had this experience. Let me ask you a simple but very important question… Would you go back the next day and see that movie again?
I am quite confident that most of you would not spend your time, energy, or your money to see a bad movie again.
So why is it that we choose to replay bad experiences that occur in our lives, over and over again?
When things don’t work out, most of us tend to dwell on what went wrong and we replay it over and over again in our minds, as if in doing so, something is going to change for the better.
The truth is, no matter how much we would like for things that happened to us to change, there is no such thing as an instant replay in life. There are no “woulda, coulda, shoulda’s”. All the replaying of an event will not change the reality of what took place.
Too often we get stuck in this replay mode, and the fact is that replaying it will not help us move forward. We must learn the lessons from the experience, and move on.
We must stop being the victim, and become the victor.
This is what peak performers do on a regular basis
Peak performers (astronauts, athletes, etc.) have all been trained to pre-play the outcomes they would like to achieve. They have been taught that in order to be successful, they need to see the positive outcome they desire in their mind, over and over again, so that it becomes their reality.
Professional athletes have been taught that when they miss a shot, they should not replay the miss over and over in their mind. Instead, they are trained to immediately visualize the same shot, but this time they see themselves making the shot.
This is what winners do in real life situations, too.
Here are some action steps to help you stop replaying, and start pre-playing your life:
Remember that there are no “woulda, coulda, shoulda’s”.
Learn to let go of bad experiences. (You can’t change what has happened.)
Just choose to move forward.
Learn the lesson.
Whenever you start to replay the negative experience again, simply say aloud, “I let it go.”
Then immediately say aloud some affirmations that will help you take ownership and control of your life (“I like myself”… “I am better than this”… “I am responsible”).
Immediately pre-play (get a clear picture in your mind) how you would like your life to be.
Keep in mind that we always move toward whatever our current dominant thoughts are. So be sure to create thoughts of what you want rather than thoughts about what you are fearful of.